Kalyna is a fierce life changer by helping clients to challenge their status quo and take the leap to create a life that’s authentically rewarding. She works as a career transition coach and human capital developer who has a relentless drive for helping clients perform at the top of their game. She supports both individual clients in achieving their career goals as well as optimizing team performance within organizations. She speaks and runs “play-shops" with groups surrounding authentic decision making and creating a life with purpose. Kalyna has a global perspective working with clients from North America to Nepal.
Feeling Stuck? Answer These 3 Questions to Get Back on Track
As we go through our days we are checking things off of our to-do lists, meeting deadlines and trying to support those around us. It may seem difficult at times to carve out the time to consider where we’re headed, what we’re really working toward, and what the purpose of our daily actions really is. It’s easy to make excuses and shift the blame to external factors that are not in our control.
Does this sound like you lately?
If only I had ____, then I would be doing ____.
I can’t do ____ because I’m not ____ enough.
I don’t know what to do next and ____ is stopping me from figuring it out.
When you take your life into your own hands and decide you’re no longer going to accept the status quo, then your actions start to change. When your daily actions start to change, then your life changes too.
Answer these three questions and you’ll be clear on how to move into creating more feel-good days. That’s the first step to changing where you’re headed and what your life will look like in the future.
- How do I want to feel every day?
This may seem simplistic, but allocate 10 minutes and get into detail. Move beyond “happy” and “successful.” Get into the details of how you want to feel throughout your day. Think about what feelings you want to have upon waking up, during your day and before bed at night. Does being loved and respected resonate with you? Do you want to feel you’ve helped others or built something every day? Write down 3 or more emotions that you would like to experience on a daily basis.
- What makes me feel the way I want to feel?
List the different environments, people, places, activities, and topics that make you feel your desired feelings. These don't have to be practical or work related, and don’t have to “sound good.” This is for you. If knitting and making flan get you excited, write these activities down under this question. Being authentic about what you like to do and what makes you feel positive is the first step to finding lasting satisfaction.
- What small change can I make today?
Out of the list you created above, pick at least one thing that you can add to your day every day this week. It can be as small as making yourself a tea each morning. Tell someone close to you about this new goal and ask them to check in with you to ensure you remain accountable to this small change. Also, check in with yourself throughout the week and see how you feel after doing this new thing which is just for you.
Once you’ve tried out this three step process, add another feel good activity to your week or day. If your concern is limited time ask yourself: “What do I dedicate time to that doesn’t make me feel positive and could be better utilized on different activities?"
Look out for the next part of this personal growth series that will focus on how to examine your personal story and move beyond any limiting beliefs that you have created for yourself.
Please share your thoughts or experience using these questions to gain clarity and bring more positive feelings into your daily life, one step at a time.