Nataliya Kesgin is the Digital & Social Media Marketing Manager at Erickson Coaching International Head Quarters in Vancouver. Besides enjoying her strategic marketing role, Nataliya is inspired by many applications of Solution-Focused coaching for propelling human development and personal growth. She is an Erickson graduate and Coach, and is also an avid advocate of women and girls’ empowerment, as well as human and animal rights.
Setting and Living Your Own Powerful Goals
What is one thing that makes you excited about your near future? Is achieving and living your own powerful goals one of them?
Many of us have acquired a habit of associating the celebration of each new year with a brand new beginning, commitment, and realization of plans that we made in the year before. For better efficiency and convenience, it is easier for our minds to plan new goals on a blank canvas of an upcoming year's calendar. There is something very comforting and re-assuring in having 365 new days to achieve goals that, for one reason or another, did not happen already. Perhaps we did not have enough courage, time, support, or determination to make them happen. Whatever the reason, the beginning of a new year brings a renewal of our inner resources, coupled with a determination to succeed.
One of the great quotes states: "Every day is a new beginning" - which means that each new year gives us the gift of a new beginning regardless of any past or present challenges. When we start forgetting how generous this gift actually is, we can lose sight of the significance of our powerful goals, and lose the optimism and resourcefulness that we had when we initially set those goals.
Whether your goal is big or small, what matters most is what achieving this goal means to you on a very personal level. Perhaps one of the biggest mistakes we can make is to begin comparing our goals to those of others, or start thinking how they might be measuring up against social expectations and various pressures around us. Although it sounds simple, allowing ourselves to feel completely free to set and achieve goals that are meaningful to us might be a little challenging. It requires calm inner visioning and an honest dialogue with our genuine Self.
So what are some ways that can help us to get into a clearer mental state and attune to our heartfelt individual powerful goals?
1. Let Your Goal Come From a State of Inner Peace
Clarity is the opposite of chaos. If you are overwhelmed by emotions and a never ending flow of thoughts and worries, you are unlikely to find a solution that will make your goal possible. As Steve Muller writes in his article "How To Listen To Your Heart", getting into a state of clarity "is all about calmness, inner peace and the tapping into the 'universal wisdom' that is located within each and every one of us, allowing it to guide you through life."
Do one thing that brings you peace and as you are doing it, ask your heart how it feels about a specific goal and notice its initial reaction. As Mueller notes, "in order to tune into the frequency of our hearts, we have to give the rational mind its well deserved break, especially in the initial phases of learning how to listen to the intuition." It is hard to mistake a positive feedback with a negative one, and as long you don't attempt to enter into a dialogue between your heart and your mind at that point, you will be on the right track.
2. Leave All Past Conditioning Behind
Once you are in a state of inner peace, continue to focus on your goal and notice any thoughts that might try to sabotage this state with external pressures and expectations. If your heart is telling you that your goal will bring a truly positive change in your life (and perhaps the world around you), are you willing to give it more significance than expectations imposed on you by your peers or relatives? If you truly feel that you want to move towards living a life of deeper purpose, are you prepared to communicate that vision honestly and openly to yourself and others?
Often, it is hardest to reject the opinions or expectations of those closest to us. Yet, once you are tuned into your own heart-centered goals, communicating the importance of going after these goals to those you love will become easier and most likely win their understanding and support.
3. Focus On The Final Impact
One very useful tool that I have learned while taking The Art & Science of Coaching is a process of visualizing all the people who will be positively affected when a specific goal is achieved by me. This tool helps to experience the final impact of your goal reaching fruition in advance, and can paint a very realistic picture of the benefits that achieving your goal will bring about.
For instance, if your goal is to invest more time and effort on vocal lessons to be a better singer, achieving this might not just make you a happier person, but also result in creation of a song that could bring joy to anyone who hears it. Sometimes, we tend to underplay the potential effect of our action (or inaction) on others. When you become aware and committed to living your own powerful goals, you will begin to notice that everything that comes out of such a positive inner intent produces a ripple effect that goes far beyond yourself.
Hopefully, these steps will help you to achieve clarity that will move you to set and live your own powerful goals now and always.
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