Nataliya is the Global Marketing Manager at Erickson Coaching International. Besides enjoying her strategic marketing role, Nataliya is inspired by many applications of Solution-Focused coaching in propelling human development and personal growth. She is an Erickson graduate and is an avid advocate of women and girls’ empowerment, as well as human and animal rights organizations.
Setting and Living Your Own Powerful Goals
What is one thing that makes you excited about your near future? Is achieving and living your own powerful goals one of them?
Many of us have acquired a habit of associating the celebration of each new year with a brand new beginning, commitment, and realization of plans that we made in the year before. For better efficiency and convenience, it is easier for our minds to plan new goals on a blank canvas of a new year's calendar. There is something very comforting and re-assuring in having 365 new days to achieve goals that, for one reason or another, did not happen already. Perhaps we did not have enough courage, time, support, or determination to make them happen. Whatever the reason, the beginning of a new year brings a renewal of our inner resources, coupled with a determination to succeed.
One of the great quotes states: "Every day is a new beginning" - which means that each new year gives us the gift of a new beginning regardless of any past or present challenges. When we start forgetting how generous this gift actually is, we can lose sight of the significance of our powerful goals, and lose mcuh-needed optimism and resourcefulness we once had for those goals that matter to us.
Whether your goal is big or small, what matters is what achieving this goal means to you on a very personal level. Perhaps one of the biggest mistakes we can make is to begin comparing our goals to those of others, or start thinking how they might be measuring up against social expectations and various pressures around us. Your goals might be completely different from those around you, and that's not only ok but healthy for you as an individual. Although it sounds simple, allowing ourselves to feel completely free to set and achieve goals that are meaningful to us might be a little challenging. It requires calm inner visioning and an honest dialogue with our genuine Self.
So what are some ways that can facilitate a clearer mental state and helps us attune to our heartfelt powerful goals?
1. Let Your Goal Come From a State of Inner Peace
Clarity is the opposite of chaos. If you are overwhelmed by emotions and a never-ending flow of thoughts and worries, you are unlikely to find a solution that will make your goals possible. As Steve Muller writes in his article "How To Listen To Your Heart", getting into a state of clarity "is all about calmness, inner peace and the tapping into the 'universal wisdom' that is located within each and every one of us, allowing it to guide you through life."
Do one thing that brings you peace and while you are doing it, become aware of how you feel about a specific goal. Notice your initial reaction to it, before you go into the overthinking mode. As Mueller notes, "in order to tune into the frequency of our hearts, we have to give the rational mind its well deserved break, especially in the initial phases of learning how to listen to the intuition." It's hard to mistake a positive self-feedback with a negative one, and as long you don't attempt to enter into a dialogue between your heart and your mind at that point, you will be on the right track.
2. Leave All Past Conditioning Behind
Once you are in a state of inner peace, continue to focus on your goal and notice any thoughts that might try to sabotage this state with external pressures and expectations. If your heart is telling you that your goal will bring a very positive change in your life (and perhaps the world around you), are you willing to give it more significance than expectations imposed on you by peers or relatives? If you truly feel that you want to move towards living a life of deeper purpose, are you prepared to communicate that vision honestly and openly to yourself and others?
Often, the hardest pasrt is to become completely free of the opinions and expectations of those closest to us. Yet, once you tune into your authentic heart-centered goals, communicating the importance of these goals to people you love will become easier and most likely win their understanding and support.
3. Focus On The Final Impact
One very useful tool that I've learned in The Art & Science of Coaching is a process of visualizing all the people who will be positively affected when I achieve one of my specific goals. This coaching tool allows you to experience the final impact of you reaching your goal and the benefits it will bring about both on micro and macro levels.
For instance, if your goal is to invest more time and effort in vocal lessons to become a better singer, achieving this might not just make you a happier person, but also produce joy for those people who might hear your singing. Sometimes, we tend to underplay the potential effects of our action (or inaction) on others. When you become aware and committed to living your own powerful goals, you will begin to notice that everything that comes out of a positive inner intent produces a ripple effect that goes far beyond yourself.
Hopefully, these steps will help you to achieve clarity that will move you to set and live your own powerful goals now and always.
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