Marilyn Atkinson's Blog Postings
In the personal development world today, there seems to be two major camps – the goal setting or 'intention' camp, and the presence or 'attention' camp.
Children are amazing with their full-spectrum, emotional circuitry! However, sometimes we parents are baffled by how emotional, angry, sad, depressed, or combative our children can become even in one moment! Do you ever tell yourself, “I have no idea what to do here and now with my child’s emotions?” Do you ever finish your day and start to criticize your ability to be a good parent?
As coaches, we hold a space for our clients to explore their ideas and the vision they ideally desire for themselves. We are curious about what is important to them and how their values can support this vision. We ask them to acknowledge their unique set of skills, and how this might help them give life to a truly gratifying future. This is all the more satisfying when you, the coach, have taken the time for your own self-discovery.
In many companies, innovation is an elusive quality that is either present or not – rather than available as a process that can be trained and managed. Leaders aim for the elusive elixir of ‘team spirit’ when they ask, “How can we manage teams and design an environment that consistently generates innovation?”
In business, asking a great question is like turning on a tap. The ideas flow, we become curious and we start to think on a new level. The question takes us on a search and the search leads us into new territory. We immediately notice when someone asks us a great question
Have you ever hiked along a trail, then stopped in a clearing for a moment and just listened? Listening as a masterful coach is truly like this. We are listening both for our clients' values and intentions, hearing them together as a complex melody with multiple levels of meaning.
One skill set that is built and sharpened through coaching is the skill of effective long-term planning. Milton Erickson was constantly reminding his clients that "change is inevitable" and to prepare accordingly.
As business owners, entrepreneurs, managers and leaders, it is our job to bring people together to work towards one goal. So what differentiates a good leader from a great leader?