How Do You Keep Clients from Becoming Co-Dependent?
Tony Husted, PCC. Erickson Trainer & Owner of an International Coaching Business in Seattle, WA
I often get asked the question, how do you keep from creating a co-dependent relationship with your Coaching Clients? Solution Focused Coaching’s goal is to create independence in the client, and when done properly it actually leaves very little room for any type of co-dependency to develop.
Take a simple example like investing in the stock market. If your goal is to make money in the stock market, the goal might be alternately stated that you are trying to develop your skills as a stock market trader. Now, imagine we are talking, and I tell you a stock tip, because as many well intentioned people do, I want to help you. Based on scientific studies on the topic of advice, there is a 75% chance that you will not follow my advice. If you go against the odds and do follow my advice, two things are likely: the tip is a good tip, and you make money, or the tip is bad, and you lose money.
The Solution Focused Power of Gratitude
Dr. Marilyn Atkinson
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” - Melody Beattie
“A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving… ”
- Albert Einstein
As we move through the holiday season and draw towards the end of the year, many individuals, including myself, are taking the time to express appreciation to our colleagues, our friends and our families. This has led me to spend some time thinking about the nature of true appreciation.
