How Do You Keep Clients from Becoming Co-Dependent?
Tony Husted, PCC. Erickson Trainer & Owner of an International Coaching Business in Seattle, WA
I often get asked the question, how do you keep from creating a co-dependent relationship with your Coaching Clients? Solution Focused Coaching’s goal is to create independence in the client, and when done properly it actually leaves very little room for any type of co-dependency to develop.
Take a simple example like investing in the stock market. If your goal is to make money in the stock market, the goal might be alternately stated that you are trying to develop your skills as a stock market trader. Now, imagine we are talking, and I tell you a stock tip, because as many well intentioned people do, I want to help you. Based on scientific studies on the topic of advice, there is a 75% chance that you will not follow my advice. If you go against the odds and do follow my advice, two things are likely: the tip is a good tip, and you make money, or the tip is bad, and you lose money.
How Being a Coach Can Make You Healthy & Happy
Tony Husted, PCC. Erickson Trainer & Owner of an International Coaching Business in Seattle, WA
There are many benefits to being a professional coach, from the financial aspect to the personal satisfaction of seeing others reach their full potential. It is exciting to complete the extensive life and business coach training required for such an influential profession, plus the continual drive to learn more everyday keeps a coach motivated. After all, it is easier to help others become successful when you are applying the principles of success to your own life. Even though you don’t have to be an expert in every client’s field, it can only increase your positive influence when you are able to model personal success in your own profession.
What’s my Blind Spot?
Brenda Abdilla, Executive Coach & Recruiter, Denver., CO
Everyone has a blind spot.
A blind spot is a habit or way of behaving that everyone knows about you-except perhaps YOU. Identifying your blind spot will help you recognize when your behavior is being dictated by it and can help you overcome it.
Pick only ONE description from the bulleted list below and then, for the next week, follow the corresponding numbered exercise to better “see” that blind spot.
- I am rarely on time. Somehow I am nearly always running late. (1)
- I do not stand up for myself. I hate conflict and avoid it with regularity. (2)
- I have little patience. Nothing moves fast enough for me and my impatience probably shows. (3)
- I talk a lot. I notice that I interrupt people, but often I cannot help it. I have a lot to say. (4)
- I have trouble making up my mind. I need to take time to ponder, but often the pondering leads to more indecisiveness. (5)
- I do not like change. I may come around to it eventually, but I am always resistant initially. (6)
Goals – Get Them in Writing!
Brenda Abdilla
It’s safe to say that many of us are familiar with the line, “If you build it, he will come”, from the 1989 film Field of Dreams. Although we’re not talking about baseball diamonds and shoeless Joe Jackson, the same principal can be applied to goal setting. Except the line would read more like this, “If you write them, they will happen”. That has been my experience and it seems that I’m not alone. Brenda Abdilla, Executive Coach at Management Momemtum, recently wrote an article about keeping lists and how the simple act of writing things down can motivate a positive follow through.
Hit the jump to read Brenda’s full article.
