Richard Hyams CSFC, Relationship Horticulturist and Coach, and Senior Trainer with Erickson College

If you know anything about coaching you might know that a coach generally assist clients to articulate and define their most important goals and further assists them to design action plans in order to achieve those very goals. It would seem to follow then that a relationship coach (a coach whose speciality is relationships) would assist their clients to define their relationship goals and elicit their values and design actions plan to achieve a higher quality of relationships whether romantic, familial and/or professional.

But relationship coaching can, and should be in my opinion, much more than that. A coach can certainly help you come up with an action plan of how to behave differently with another person or assist you in outlining a list of attributes for your ideal lover and again, a plan to find him or her. I call this the “outer game” of relating. Focusing on actions and behaviors we take to gain a result. But as I state above, coaching, especially relationship coaching, can go much deeper than that. A good relationship coach will assist you with the “inner game” of relating. I have determined that the one thing that stops us from having good and glorious relationships with anyone and everyone are the unexamined, unquestioned beliefs we hold onto concerning what it means to relate to one another. In other words, the “inner game” means being willing to examine and change any of the thought patterns and beliefs about yourself and others that prevent you from having the relationship experiences you want. A coach can act as a valuable asset in this process.

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Teresia LaRocque, MCC Founder and Facilitator of the Passion Into Profit Program

And it all starts with discovering this: What is YOUR definition of success?

I’ve worked with hundreds, if not thousands of entrepreneurs, and I can assure you that every one of them had a different idea of success. For some it was a six-figure income; for others, it was generating full-time income on part-time hours. Some wanted to inspire people; others wanted to educate. One wanted to coach 40 new parents each month, while another set her sights on intensive retreats for 10 retirees each quarter.

As you dig deeper into your idea of success, you’ll discover that there are layers of insight about what success really is. Underneath the picture of a successful business, there’s the feeling of true success. It might be freedom from overwhelm and struggle, an inspiring level of work-life-family balance, or a pace that keeps you energized. Maybe it’s surrounding yourself with a-mazing people – and nothing but! For many people, it’s the sense that you’re finally doing what you were born to do.

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Joel Davis, P.C. Professional Coach - The Coaching Cabin

We often have become so overwhelmed with what others want, need, or think of us, that we lose our authentic self. If you are feeling frustrated, it’s most likely because the things you are doing and how you are being are not in alignment with who you are at your most authentic, deepest, and best level.

The frustration we feel is very real, but not in the way we often think it is. The frustration (believe it or not) is a gift, that arrives to inform us that how we are being and/or what we are doing is not in true service of us or those around us.

Instead of listening to the true message of frustration (which is that a change is needed) we often try to outwork, outsmart, or get a head of this frustration; any relief felt by these remedies are short-lived. As we continue to live outside of our authenticity, the frustration only returns again and again to remind us this is not who or how we are at our deepest and best levels.

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Teresia LaRocque, MCC Founder and Facilitator of the Passion Into Profit Program

Have you ever heard yourself say “I am not ready”? I am not ready to integrate my coaching skills into my career, I am not ready to “go public” with being a coach, I am not ready to ask for a raise, I am not ready to charge for my services, I am not ready for a career change etc. I often here this phrase when I am mentoring coaches to take the next step in building their businesses. When we are on the path to realizing a dream, we never fully feel ‘ready’. If you felt ready, then it would be time to do the next thing that would require growth and then you would be back to not feeling ready.

If you are truly playing big, acting on your dreams – give yourself the gift of embracing that not feeling ready is part of the journey and act anyways!

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Dave Striar is a Life, Career, and Relationship Coach

True Confessions of a Wannabe Professional Coach

I cannot remember the exact moment or when the concept of my relationship to my coaching business was introduced during the Passion into Profit Program (PIP), but I do recall my brain’s reaction when it successfully snuck through my perceptual filters.

Teresia had thrown the curve ball question –“What is your relationship to your business?” The ‘Big Error’ message came up flashing in neon lights, what is Teresia talking about? My eyebrows went up, and my forehead got all scrunched. I was the traditional batter caught off balance, flat footed, frozen in the batter’s box, watching this so-called “softball” of a pitch flutter by me while taunting me to swing mightily, so I could knock it out of the park. This should have been a warning that when I actually allowed myself to entertain this question, I might not like the answer.

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